[CW: body issues]
as much i think it is crucial for everyone to come in terms with their own body and accept and cherish it the way it is, i know it is not the easiest thing to do.
we are constantly told that our bodies need to fit within certain radicalised shapes and forms, and this doctrine is so deeply ingrained in our culture that it’s pretty much impossible to escape it. it’s part of everyday conversations, it’s in the TV, news, social media, even on posters on buses, trains, everywhere. (which reminds me that, quite recently, a visually striking ad featuring a naked 90-60-90 female body in front of baby pink background with huge white letters spelling the word ‘fat’ in Danish was put up on almost every bus, advertising a plastic surgery clinic – seriously, wtf)
since this is the reality we all grew up in and which continues to surround us, it is really hard not to feel bad about our bodies, which are not all smooth, completely hairless, ‘perfectly’ skinny or adequately muscular (depending on your gender, of course) and shaped to fit the ‘ideal’ form.
it is also hard not to talk about the discomfort we feel with our own body, but what message do we actually send when we scold our bodies in front of other people?
what effect does it have on the people around you when you say you are ‘fat’, or that your skin is ‘disgusting’, or simply that you are ‘ugly’?
even though one intends to criticise only their own body, they end up bringing up feelings of doubt, self-analysis, unnecessary comparing, guilt and much more.
none of us is really too ‘ugly’ or ‘fat’, but saying that leads to reinforcing those unrealistic body ideals.
it is a reminder of sorts, something like ‘hey, if you think your body doesn’t look the right way, what about mine then?’.
and that is why it is really important to refrain from such own-body-shaming, not only for your own self esteem, but also for those around.
it is not only important to stop slamming our own bodies, but also to act as a body positivity ally and and fight against self-hate.
even if you’re not feeling 100% great in your body, do not scold it.
and if you hear someone putting their own body down, try to rationally explain them why and how they can avoid that.
(and this is especially important for young children – dear parents, please try to teach your kids how to have a positive relationship to their own bodies instead of talking bad about your bodies)
try to be a good example – even though it’s often hard, i know.